That you are worried about what other people think about you?
You’re afraid of doing something wrong?
Letting others down?
Always trying to be perfect, but end up feeling like a failure?
We think it’s time for this to stop, and that 2020 is all about learning how to show yourself some self-compassion each day. We have some top tips about how you can look after yourself more and make your space, a better place.
Breathe in essential oils
We are massive fans of essential oils as they can help you to deal with things like anxiety and insomnia, as well as being super soothing for your skin, and they are part of the self-compassion mix. Every time you start to hear those negative comments coming into your head, just stop, find an oil like geranium, rose or lavender and put a little on your wrists. As you breathe in and out, take in their soothing scent and let them get to work.
Repeat five times.
You might find that using oils in the bath is another way to get the benefits, so at the end of a long day, rather than scroll through social media or binge on a TV box set, run the water, get in and relax.
Meditation might seem like a buzzword, but this form of self-compassion can help you find inner peace and calm. It’s a little like the breathing exercise above but with added visualisation.
1. Close your eyes, take in a few deep breaths and bring your attention to the present moment.
2. Visualise someone you love unconditionally. Your mum, partner, best friend, or even your dog and imagine they are with you under a clear, blue sky.
3. Put your hands on your chest and on top of your heart and feel the love you have for that person, or pet.
4. Feel this love and connect to the compassion you have within yourself.
5. Take a series of deep breaths, in and out, and just feel the love you have for them and for you.
6. When you’re ready, slowly open your eyes and bring your attention back to the room.
Nourish Your Body
As well as nourishing your mind, you also have to nourish your body if you really want to look after yourself. Our thoughts and feelings can positively, or negatively affect our bodies, so if you can build a healthy relationship with the two by enjoying a good, well balanced diet then things can change. We aren’t saying you have to become a vegan overnight, or that you can’t enjoy treats, but make sure you get your five a day, drink plenty of water, try wholegrains and give the take-aways and energy drinks a miss because they won’t do you any favours.
Know you are enough
Many of us struggle with feelings of inadequacy and try to live up to impossible expectations. It’s easy in our digital age to feel as if something is missing in our lives if we aren’t always winning. In a ‘culture of more’, we don’t always appreciate what we have and it’s easy to look for more and more things to fill a void. You don’t need to do that and can simply say that at this very time, you are enough. It sounds hard, and it might take time, but simply saying you are enough several times a say is the kind of self-compassion we are talking about.
Self-awareness is key to self-compassion
We need to stop the negative self-talking when it starts because this energy can really bring us down. When you start to feel that things are getting a little dark or too much, stop, sit down and take a moment to remember that the power is YOU! If there’s a friend who brings you down, don’t spend too much time with them. If travelling on the tube makes you feel claustrophobic, take the bus. If your job is just too much for you, look around for another one or speak to your manager about making changes. If you can spot the triggers that make life hard, you can put self-compassion into place and change these toxic patterns.
Team Pure Beauty